3 Reasons to Get Better at "Allowing"

Ever wanted something so bad that the process of working towards it...started to feel...

Well...painful???

I hear ya! That growth stuff can feel like a thorn in the rear end on occasion!

Have you ever heard of the term "Allow?"

al·low /əˈlou/ give the necessary time or opportunity for.

Allowing is a nice compliment to the lessens of "The Secret" or the "Law of Attraction"

Helpful Reminders from "The Secret" (by Rhonda Byrne):

1. Whatever you are thinking and feeling today is created in your future.

2. "You create your own universe as you go along." - Winston Churchill

3. Energy flows where attention goes.

4. "Whether you think you can or you think you can't, either way you are right." - Henry Ford

5. "Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls." - Joseph Campbell

6. The Creative Process = Ask, Believe, Receive

1st Reason to Learn to "Allow": Dreaming, Asking, Requesting - Is SUPER Fun!

Life can often feel like a fun vacuum. How often do we get opportunities to dream of what we want next in our lives? How often does someone ask you questions like, "What would you do if you could do anything?"?

It is funny how we ask kids all of the time, "What do you want to be when you grow up?" - and when they say "A Dancer and a Singer!" - no one ever says, "That's stupid! You'll never be good at that!" or "Barely anyone makes a living doing that!" We say, "Oh my gosh! That's awesome!" We let kids dream...and we let them dream outside the box.

When does that stop happening? When we are 13? 15? 24?🤔

Well...that sucks!!! This world would be far better with more dreaming! If we can "ALLOW" a little more - maybe, just maybe - that gives us more space (& grace) to let ourselves dream.

2nd Reason to Learn to "Allow": It's All About the ENERGY!

If I have learned anything major in my adult life - that I use on a daily basis...it is that everything is energy! AND we get to choose our energy...to a very large degree!

When we are in that space of dreaming/creating...we are in what many call the "flow." The flow is a space where we are being and doing without a thought about being or doing. Our energy is flowing in alignment with our divine blueprint for this earth.

Where we get into bad shape - is when we start trying to drive the train of that flow...or force that energy in a certain direction.

The universe is usually pretty forgiving at first. It might nudge you a little and try to remind you that there is always a great plan and timing for things...and sometimes it isn't the same one you had in mind.

If you ignore the nudges, the message might come next in a shout or smack in the back of the head. If we keep ignoring, then we can start feeling all sorts of bad energy, like: Anger, Fatigue, Resistance, Depression.

Who wants that!?!😬😳

Let me be clear - this isn't the universe telling you that your new idea is stupid or that you can't have what you are working towards - but maybe that you need a little more reflection time, or maybe you are missing a step, or maybe you need to tie some loose ends somewhere else, or that maybe you are avoiding following through on a lesson that would provide you great growth! The universe knows.

If you start living in a pool of ugly emotions - your goals are most certainly going to hit a major stall. Remember: Energy goes where intention flows!

3rd Reason to Learn to "Allow": Gratitude for the Process Brings More Reasons to Be Grateful!

Let's say you are focused on cleaning out your house for a big move coming in the next 6 months. You're all organized and you made a spreadsheet for what needs to get done - with a nice little estimate of how much time each job will take. You're pretty good at this whole organization thing - it isn't your first rodeo.

The first week of tasks goes great! Then, you hit the bins of photos (that you haven't looked at for years - but aren't willing to part with). You have a clear-cut plan for sorting them quickly into dated photo boxes and crossing it off your list of "to-dos." You are on your 3rd pile and motivated to stay on track!

Then, the photos slip right out of your hand and all over the floor!🤬

Dang it! There goes your schedule! You are so ready to swear up a stream...but...

You look down and see a pic from college - of you and one of your college roommates - that is just hilarious! You sit down for a sec and reminisce. You miss Kelle - your bestie Kelly w/an "E" from college. You still chat here and there on Facebook or in birthday cards - but other that that - you barely see her. You wish that you didn't live 8 hours from each other. You wish that adulting didn't mean barely any time for these types of old friends. Good memories. Good friend. Just good.

You pick the pictures back up and finish the task at hand.

A few days later - you are waiting in line for your coffee and you hear the person next to you spell their name to the barista "Kelly...with an E." You turn your head - and there she is! Your college bestie! You give each other a giant hug and start chatting. She is in town for a week - helping her folks with a project. She had an hour to kill before the next errand and thought she would just sit at the coffee shop for a bit. Now you are both here! And you both have time to just sit and catch-up! As you are catching-up - she tells you that one of her close friends just started a business for helping people organize. Her friend really enjoys helping people get their belongings together before a move! And - she is looking for some free new clients to help organize - to get recommendations for her page!

There is no way you could have predicted or designed what happened today. But taking a quick minute to feel the feelings of joy while viewing that picture of your friend - manifested more reasons to be joyful - AND coffee with your college bestie!

All-in-all...I send you piles of positive energy towards dreaming and growing...as you deserve great things in this life...but just remember that - if we choose to "ALLOW" - the universe might just have an even better plan for us!❤️